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Christian Parenting

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WHAT IS EFFECTIVE PARENTING To understand effective parenting, it is helpful to separate principles from practices. Secularly parenting training tends to focus on practices to shape children's behavior for success at school, sports, work. God's parenting training in the Bible, focuses more on the prinicples for raising children to have a close personal relationship with Jesus and a willingess to follow Him completely. While God wants us to be successful in the world, He is most interested in a humble, loving heart that seeks him fervently.

The secular practices can teach us helpful skills, but must only be implemented in the context of God's prinicples, or it is easy to lose sight of the true goal and get our own identities/self-worth wrapped up in how well our children behave. Parenting is more about influencing our kids through our relationship with Jesus than about doing the job perfectly.
    PARENTING PRINCIPLES PARENTING PRACTICES
  • Unconditional love (Matt 22:35-40; 1Cor 13:1-13)
  • Active listening
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  • Developing committed hearts(Eph 3:17-19; Matt 22:37-39)
  • Modeling a devoted heart for Jesus
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  • Building character with discipline(Eph 6:1-6; Prov 13:24,19:18)
  • Limit setting
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  • Developming gifts/talents(1 Cor 12:1-31; Eph 4:1-16)
  • Productive praise and rewarding
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  • Developing humility (Psa 11:12; Phil 2:1-2; 2Cor 13:5)
  • Modeling acts of compassion
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  • Instilling Christian paractices (Rom 12:1-2; Luke 11:28)
  • Incorporating practictes into family life
  • Inspiring a heart to witness to the lost (Matt 28:18)
  • Modeling witnessing using individual gifts
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    ARTICLES OF INTEREST...
    Active Lstening
    One of the best gifts to our children is to listen to them and hear who God made them to be. Learn how to hear them.. Read More...


    Limit Setting
    All behavior in children is communication. The more frustrated and confused they are, the more loudly their actions speak. Read More...

    Listener Assessment
    Really listening to an other so as to forget yourself is an act of love. How well do you listen?. Read More...


    If Only I Had Known: Letter to My Children
    A letter from an older wiser young mother to her adult chidren, knowing now what she wish she knew then.. Read More...


    RECOMMENDED READING

    your childs self esteem   Your Child’s Self-Esteem          By: Dorothy Briggs
           Main Street Books 1988 1st edition



    children the challenge   Children the Challenge
       By: Rudolph Drykeirs
       Plume 1991


    raising great kids      Raising Great Kids: A           Comprehensive Guide to     Parenting with Gace & Truth
      By: Cloud & Townsend
      Zondervan Publishing House 1999

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    My Dearest Children,

    IF ONLY I HAD KNOWN:

    That your eyes were always on me.
    That true love is more about discipline than treats...And self-discipline started with me.
    That your loudest tantrums were really requests...for me to relieve you of control.
    That it is better for you to be mad at me than to like me.
    That it didn't matter if your clothes were soiled, but it mattered if your heart was.
    That tolerance of everything leads to confusion and room for satan to attack.
    That the little moments are really the big ones.
    That you are never too young or too old to learn scripture.
    That prayer should happen first, not as the last resort.
    That God is the author of the greatest parenting book ever written.
    That what you learn to value at 3, is what you value at 33.

    That "they grow up so fast" meant in the blink of an eye. IF ONLY I HAD KNOWN...
    That it was never about me.
    That it wasn't even about you.

    It is all about Jesus.

    All my love,
    Your older and wiser mom

    		 
    6 And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
                                Deuteronomy 6:6-9

                   


    SUBMIT YOUR TESTIMONY

    9 Only take heed to yourself, and diligently keep yourself, lest you forget the things your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. And teach them to your children and your grandchildren,                           Deuteronomy 4:9








    24 He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.                                                       Proverb 13:24


    1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise: 3 that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth. 4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.







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